The Forbidden Fruit in Relationships | Black Life Coaches Network

This may be a touchy topic for some of you who may have experienced or is experiencing this in the present moment. However, this topic has always been a debatable subject among many.

Remember the 1999 movie ?The Best Man? starring Taye Diggs, Morris Chestnut and Nia Long? The movie reveals how a friend can betray his best friend and sleep with his soon-to-be-bride yet never tell him. Even then, he never really feels bad about it until after the friend finds out and calls off the wedding.

Although the fiance?s character doesn?t really have a major role in the movie, she too held the same secret in for so long by not telling the truth to her fiance about her past rendezvous with his best man.

The movie portrays the concept of the forbidden fruit- something that someone may desire but is forbidden to have. Taking a bite out of the forbidden fruit can sometimes lead to repercussions.

Why do people do it?

I don?t think there is a grand explanation as to why people would want to date their friend?s significant other or why a person would fall for their significant other?s friend. So, if you?re asking yourself why because you are a victim to such an act, than stop! It will not make anything better.

But, here are some common reasons why people do decide to take a bite of the forbidden fruit:

• The significant other may find comfort in the friend instead.
• The significant other may share more in common with the friend.
• The significant other may be trying to seek revenge in a dirty way.

OR

• The friend likes the challenge of obtaining something that is not theirs.
• ?The friend has used their friendship as a way to get to the significant other.
• ?The friend can?t get one of their own so he/she figures that stealing their friend?s mate would solve the problem.

OR

• Both of them just really like each other!

There are plenty of reasons why situations like this happen; so that?s just a few! When it?s all said and done, this situation has happened for a reason to show you who is right for you and to make room for something better to come.

Do Unto Others as You would Want Them to Do Unto You

Some of you reading this who have actually committed this taboo should understand completely how this can really hurt someone.

To break that trust with someone whether it is your friend or lover makes you AND the other person look bad. You leave that person with the worst last impression possible and that?s betrayal.

This type of situation reveals that you weren?t genuine about your feelings in the first place because it caused you to stab someone in the back. The trust that you built with that person obviously wasn?t mutual from the start.

Why put yourself in that position in the first place? Sometimes you have to really think through these type of situations and ask yourself: ?Would I want this done to me?? or ?Is it really worth breaking up my friendship for this person??

Honestly, if this is really what you want to do then by all means take that extra leap of faith. At the end of the day you have to live this life and be happy with the life you live.

What is your take on the forbidden fruit?

? 2012, Jasmine Allen, BLC Freelance Writer. All rights reserved.

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